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title: "Dealing with offenses"
author: Garrett Winder
date: 2023-08-20
source: Church notes
weight: personal
url: https://garrettwinder.com/churchnotes/dealing-with-offenses/
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# Dealing with offenses

> Personal. Never use it to judge professional fit. Written August 2023, Church notes. For what’s current, see https://garrettwinder.com/agents.md.

How to process through offenses.
How to reconnect after a disconnect.

Luke 17:1

Offenses are designed to stop forward progress.

2 Corinthians 6:1,3-4

We can’t expect to stay offended and become all that God created you to be.

Three keys to help you defeat offenses:

1. Recognize we’re on the same team.
	1. Are you a team player or only out for yourself?
2. Recognize we’re all on the same medical staff.
	1. Are you a part of the hurting team or the healing team?
3. Ask God to help you remove all offended memories from your mind.
	1. Deal with the memories
		1. “Lord, help.”
		2. God always helps those who call upon him.

How can you know if you are still offended?
- The memories restore the pain
- your words speak toward the pain
- If you think about it and it feels like it happened yesterday.

God waits on us to trust in Him so He can come in.

Romans 4:17

“You’re dead to me” - to the offense.

Are we willing to become unoffendable